Monday, May 9, 2022

When to take the exit door




Should I pursue this job offer? Will it be wrong to leave the company when the company has done so much for me? Should I wait till the appraisal gets over? Does any of these thoughts ring a bell to you?

These are some of the thoughts that linger in your mind when you see a job offer from your dream company. So, when is the right time to move on? Here are my two cents on this subject.

Culture is really icky

In the name of passion and competition, all the demonic qualities of human beings are on full display. Your opinion is put down with full disdain.  Insecurity is in the air. People snap at each other at the drop of a hat. When you smile or laugh at some joke, people look at you and give you a nasty look. When you are in look for help, people turn a cold shoulder at you. O boy, you are at a wrong WRONG palace!!

Prioritize your happiness over any company, career and people. Always believe you deserve all the happiness and respect in this world. You might have committed the biggest blunder, but never EVER let anyone ever run over you.  The person who might be yelling at you, might have committed much bigger blunder. He/she must have forgotten it or is just plainly dumb.

Remember, you are here to contribute, learn and progress and not to take anyone’s SHIT!!

A self-centered boss

A bad boss has the ability to destroy your personal life. You may have wanted to hear – he can destroy your office life. No!! You heard it right, I am talking about your family and friends here. That pent up anger, dejection and anxiety needs to find a way out of your system.  Obviously, it cannot be pointed towards your boss, which should be ideal. Next in line, come people who are close to us. They keep wondering why this guy has gone cuckoo. Little do they know, he is suffering from a villainous boss?

For such bosses, the world revolves around themselves. He is too caught up about his own promotions and appeasements that he cares two hoots for your career.

Remember, a bad boss is like a bad marriage, the more you try to save it, the deeper you dig yourself in deep shit.

 Hitting a plateau

They say that any muscle including the brain if not used or challenged, loses it sheen. It works on “Use it or Lose it” principle. The same job profile with no real challenges or firefighting can be extremely dangerous not only for your thinking capabilities but also for your overall career. Sometimes bosses can give you false promises of an ideal project that will take you places. It can also be a leadership role that you have been waiting for long. These are just delaying inevitable.

I generally believe, that a job, appraisal or company cannot make or break you. Just keeping working hard on your knowledge and take the plunge.

Though there might be many more reasons to move on like sexual harassment, better pay package, relocating, the above reasons are irrefutable for a job change.

In a nutshell, job is just a part of your life, when it becomes your life, there is something terribly wrong.


Wednesday, May 5, 2021

I searched you



Up in the mountains somewhere near the sky,
I would try to search you but you dint pass by.

I searched for you in temples frantically,
i could feel your presence faintly but not totally.

I searched for you in the homes of the poor,
i could feel your presence faintly but not totally.

I searched for you in the homes of the sick,
i could feel your presence faintly but not totally.

Then I turned inwards and found you in my heart,
Why dint i look there first because that would have been smart.

Love in Middle of War




A child in the middle of a war,
Clings to her mother and weeps galore.

Looks into the eyes of his mother and asks,
Will I be killed too by these people in mask.

The sound of bombs are tearing my eardrums,
Screams and yells are making my body numb.

They took away daddy when I was sleeping on his lap,
He dint complete the story which he used to tell me before i go for a nap.

Mother smiled sheepishly and kissed his cheek,
She understood that her baby was feeling scared and weak.

Fighting her tears, she wiped his tears and took him in her arms,
Don't worry son, daddy will be back with his full charm.

A garden of chocolates awaits you in the heaven,
But remember son, you can eat only six or seven!!

Daddy and I will be waiting for you there,
Because we will not leave you alone anywhere.

Be a Dreamer!!



I am a dreamer and you should be one too,
Because if i dont dream, how can it have remotest possibility of being true.

Dream because you have no choice,
It keeps you hopeful and touches your inner voice.

Dream can be a wish or a nightmare,
Hold the wish and chuck the nightmare, as it can cause only despair.

Believe that wishes will come true,
If they wouldn't, why would they have come to you?

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

Forgiving your enemy


“You know that girl sitting in the corner” yelled my friend sitting across me in a hotel, “She ditched me when I was in 11th standard and went around with another friend of mine. As he said this, his face fell and he was fuming with anger. The delicious pizza which he was feasting on before he saw that girl did not interest him further. Our conversation which was climbing high altitudes of life, career, health had started dropping to lowest depths of anger, frustration and irritation.  But there you are, the reason for misery – the girl who ditched him sipping her coffee and giggling away with her friends.  A simple thought crossed my mind – having so much hatred towards somebody when the other person is enjoying and hardly aware of your anger, is it really worth it?

When you ask someone to forgive somebody, what is the initial reaction you get? “Why should I forgive her, you don’t know what she has done to me?  I will not leave her” But my dear do you know what you have done to yourself because of this? Your fertile brain which could have been invested for your good health and wealth has been infected by your hatred and anger. Some might argue that hatred gives direction and motive in life. If that is the case, wouldn’t have countries like Syria, Iraq and Pakistan be the world’s most developed and successful countries.  A mind devoid of any hatred and anger is always creative as well as productive.

It’s really a pity that a person with anger and hatred is really looked up to nowdays. A messenger of peace and nonviolence is typecasted as weak and passive. If that is the case, a thin, frail and bespectacled person with a stick in his hands wouldn’t have got us Independence. When we had so many aggressive freedom fighters during that time, it was only Mahatma Gandhi whom they  finally gave into. Being peaceful, doesn’t mean being passive. As Sri Sri Ravishankar says “Patience in mind and Dynamism in action”. Right action comes to your mind only when you are at peace.


Hatred is a slow poison, it might give a pleasure feeling that you are achieving something, but in longer run, it eats you up from within.

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Makes me Wonder….


 


In this fast paced life where everything is a race, sometimes it really makes me wonder so many things.
Have you ever wondered?
Why penny in my pocket is more important than smile on my face?
Why watching TV is more important than spending time with your parents?
Why wishing a friend on a phone on a birthday is easier than wishing a friend personally?
Why is watching a movie more relaxing than strolling in a garden?
Why is going to a gym more fashionable than doing yoga and meditation?
Why am I doing whatever I am doing in my life?
These whys lead you towards happy and peaceful mind. But there are some other whys which lead you to the other way. Wondered what they are:
Why has been god unkind to me?
Why is that person so evil towards me?
Why this world has become such a bad place to live in?
Why shall I call him, when he doesn’t call me?
Why should I be good when others have been bad to me?
Why should I care for the country when it has given nothing to me?
And the complaints go on?
So the next time you think a “Why”, think which side the why is leading?
After reading this article, did you feel “why I read this article?” or “ why dint I read it earlier?”.

 

Friday, September 5, 2014

Happy Teachers Day!!


A day full of gratefulness
A student without a teacher is celebration without happiness
Thank you for being so patient with me
I know at times you must have felt to pull my ears and slap me
Cant believe my luck that you still stood by me
When the world said I was hopeless
You said i was a gem that was priceless
A promise is what i can give you
Will spread to the world the knowledge given by you
Words cannot describe how special you are
I can just bow down and whisper to god, what have i done to deserve a great teacher that you are?